Have A Nice Life

February 26th, 2018

I remember the first time I heard this phrase and it stuck with me. I was listening to Cyndi Lauper’s Christmas album and she says it in a song. It struck me as…ironic? Not mean since it’s a Christmas album. I’ve heard the phrase said in a less-than-happy way. Actually, someone said it to me last year and it wasn’t in a humorous way at all. More on that later. The odd thing is I caught myself thinking “Have a nice life” the other day. About a house.
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February 7th, 2018

Every time I think I should sit down and write a blog post, I keep thinking of the hundreds of them I lost and I just can’t find the strength to do it. Ironic considering the title of this one, isn’t it? I’m trying to be hopeful or at least find hope in some things again. This is an uphill battle, sadly.
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The Closing of the Year (2017)

December 17th, 2017

I woke up this morning (Sunday) after realizing I smelled my father’s cologne. He wore a specific scent as far back as I can remember, and I’ve always associated it with him. Mom hasn’t felt dad’s presence since he passed away. I have from time to time. A couple of action flicks played on the Blu-Ray player the last two evenings, so I figure he came around for a little father/son film time. There may have been another reason.
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An Explanation Of Sorts

December 3rd, 2017

My husband, Ralph, told me his Chinese horoscope stated 2017 would be a year of change. This has held true and not just for him.
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The Face of Gay 22 (J.P. Barnaby)

December 15th, 2012


If all goes well, the next Face of Gay post on December 29th will be the last one for 2012 and I have something rather fun, festive and musically inclined planned for it. You see, we’ve attracted some readers who don’t always comment, but who pour over what you write each week. Some of them are names you might recognize and it’s become my mission to see if I can get them involved, one at a time.

All in all, this has truly been a year of meeting people both online and in person. One who I met for the first time many months ago is a fellow author, the indomitable J.P. Barnaby. She’s not only a breath of fresh air, but she makes me laugh and that’s something I appreciate a great deal. And like so many authors in this genre, she either reached out, caressed and touched lives around her or they’ve reached out and goosed her. We authors like that sort of thing…if the person doing it is appropriately gorgeous and well-endowed. But it’s not all about groping. It should be, but it’s not. Sometimes those whose lives we touch and are touched by have very dark beginnings. Welcome to J.P. Barnaby’s Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 20 (Paul Bright)

December 1st, 2012


Filmmaker Paul Bright first came to my attention a little over a year ago when I visited a TLA booth at the WEHO Book Fair and saw one of his films, Altitude Falling, for sale. The film stuck in my head, but it wasn’t until I saw Paul in person at a booth at OutlantaCon with the film in front of him that I put two and two together. I’m great with film covers or poster art. I’m terrible with names. I’m not so good with math at times either.

So, how does a writer/director/actor (plus someone who wears several other hats) who happens to be gay manage to navigate around the Hollywood system and release independent films? What about the man behind the films? For the answers to those questions, I’m going to let the man himself tell you. Please say hello to Paul Bright and his Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 19 (Angel Martinez)

November 24th, 2012


I originally wasn’t going to have a Face of Gay post this weekend. It was even a topic of conversation on my Facebook page because I honestly wanted to know if people thought they’d be around to read it. I just didn’t think it was fair to have someone write something up only to miss half the regular audience. However, we’re fluid here and after reading Angel’s post, I realized that this weekend isn’t just about strikes at Wal-Mart, moronic corporate executives at Target, or money. It’s about family. At least in the US. It was about family in Canada last month. As for the UK…um…every day is Family Day.

Reading Angel’s post gives me hope. It gives me hope that love and understanding is still alive in families and that if the next generation follows the examples she and so many of you are setting, we’re going to be okay. What amazes me even more is that she (Angel) sent this to me because she felt compelled to write it without even knowing if it would be featured as one of these posts. It couldn’t be more perfect. So with that, I give you Angel Martinez’s Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 18 (Julie L. Hayes)

November 17th, 2012


One of the things I’d hoped to accomplish with this blog series is establishing some common ground between the GLBT community and everyone else. It’s that whole “If you tickle us, do we not laugh? If you poison us, do we not die? Wrong us, shall we not tell your friends and family just how badly you dress without our help?” I’m paraphrasing that last bit. The rest was made famous in Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country. In any case, there have been several contributors who aren’t gay, but whose lives have been touched either by someone in the LGBT community or through their interaction with the community.

I’m still trying to wrap my mind around the stories coming in where someone who’s straight and a supporter of the community has had backs turned on them by family and friends because of it. It boggles me. Okay, I’ll be honest…it also annoys me. I’m sure it’s more annoying for them. And with that, welcome to author Julie L. Hayes’s Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 17 (Rick Reed)

November 10th, 2012


There are certain people you hear about, read about, interact with and hope to meet one day. Rick Reed is one of these people. For those of us in the publishing field, it’s difficult not to discuss authors who also happen to be a part of the GLBT community and not hear his name come up. And there’s a reason for this. If you’re not sure what that reason is…well, I’m not going to do your homework for you. You’re just going to have to check up on him yourself. I’d recommend you start here.

Welcome to Rick Reed’s Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 16 (Adriana D’Apolito)

November 3rd, 2012


We’ve all heard and read the horror stories associated with someone coming out to their family. Rarely is it a Hallmark moment and some families just couldn’t exist without drama. I know. My extended family can be like that at times. Half acts like white trash and the other is just nuts. It’s truly amazing I wound up as saintly and well-balanced as I did. That better not be chuckling I hear…

But what do you do when you’re straight, a friend and supporter of the GLBT community, and involved in beta reading and reviewing erotica because you enjoy it? Where exactly is the problem with that? Do you see one? I don’t. Adriana didn’t. But somebody did and it just so happens to be the focus in today’s Face of Gay post.
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