Chasing Shadows

April 29th, 2018

“Nothing’s the same anymore.” (Commander Jeffrey Sinclair, Babylon 5)

And he’s correct. I don’t mind change. You’re thinking I’m lying, right? Well, the truth is I don’t mind change as long as things stay somewhat the same. For instance? I miss the way Twinkies taste. They were softer and full of flavor as a child. Fewer preservatives, I think, and a much shorter shelf life. Going to see a movie was different then too. You waited in long lines to be packed into dozens of rows with no stadium seats, hoping nobody tall or with big hair sat in front of you. Movie theaters were gold mines then.
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When It Finally Feels Real

April 14th, 2018

A friend of ours who Ralph used to live with while he worked in Chicago many years back passed away a week ago. This came as somewhat unexpected news because while Marianne had several things going wrong with her, she always rallied. Always. Kinda of like a cat with 9 lives, plus a few extra. She’d gone in for surgery last November or December, ended up on a ventilator—shades of what happened to author Dorien Grey—and had a number of ups and downs while in the hospital and rehab ever since.

Then Ralph and I got the text last weekend. Marianne had passed.
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Have A Nice Life

February 26th, 2018

I remember the first time I heard this phrase and it stuck with me. I was listening to Cyndi Lauper’s Christmas album and she says it in a song. It struck me as…ironic? Not mean since it’s a Christmas album. I’ve heard the phrase said in a less-than-happy way. Actually, someone said it to me last year and it wasn’t in a humorous way at all. More on that later. The odd thing is I caught myself thinking “Have a nice life” the other day. About a house.
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February 7th, 2018

Every time I think I should sit down and write a blog post, I keep thinking of the hundreds of them I lost and I just can’t find the strength to do it. Ironic considering the title of this one, isn’t it? I’m trying to be hopeful or at least find hope in some things again. This is an uphill battle, sadly.
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The Closing of the Year (2017)

December 17th, 2017

I woke up this morning (Sunday) after realizing I smelled my father’s cologne. He wore a specific scent as far back as I can remember, and I’ve always associated it with him. Mom hasn’t felt dad’s presence since he passed away. I have from time to time. A couple of action flicks played on the Blu-Ray player the last two evenings, so I figure he came around for a little father/son film time. There may have been another reason.
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An Explanation Of Sorts

December 3rd, 2017

My husband, Ralph, told me his Chinese horoscope stated 2017 would be a year of change. This has held true and not just for him.
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The Face of Gay 22 (J.P. Barnaby)

December 15th, 2012


If all goes well, the next Face of Gay post on December 29th will be the last one for 2012 and I have something rather fun, festive and musically inclined planned for it. You see, we’ve attracted some readers who don’t always comment, but who pour over what you write each week. Some of them are names you might recognize and it’s become my mission to see if I can get them involved, one at a time.

All in all, this has truly been a year of meeting people both online and in person. One who I met for the first time many months ago is a fellow author, the indomitable J.P. Barnaby. She’s not only a breath of fresh air, but she makes me laugh and that’s something I appreciate a great deal. And like so many authors in this genre, she either reached out, caressed and touched lives around her or they’ve reached out and goosed her. We authors like that sort of thing…if the person doing it is appropriately gorgeous and well-endowed. But it’s not all about groping. It should be, but it’s not. Sometimes those whose lives we touch and are touched by have very dark beginnings. Welcome to J.P. Barnaby’s Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 21 (Thom)

December 8th, 2012


I can honestly say I knew Thom before he became a publisher author! Granted, I still haven’t met him in person yet, but we’re working on that. Maybe one year at DragonCon. What I thought I knew about him recently went right out the window when I read his post for this series. It’s one thing to ‘know’ somebody via social media and a few phone calls discussing publishing pointers, but to really dig into the nitty-gritty?

Someone complained two weeks ago that they felt these posts were too sugarcoated and never delved into the ugly side of life. I disagree, but that’s my own humble opinion. I’d also challenge that person to read this week’s post and call this sugarcoated. And with that, welcome to Thom’s Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 20 (Paul Bright)

December 1st, 2012


Filmmaker Paul Bright first came to my attention a little over a year ago when I visited a TLA booth at the WEHO Book Fair and saw one of his films, Altitude Falling, for sale. The film stuck in my head, but it wasn’t until I saw Paul in person at a booth at OutlantaCon with the film in front of him that I put two and two together. I’m great with film covers or poster art. I’m terrible with names. I’m not so good with math at times either.

So, how does a writer/director/actor (plus someone who wears several other hats) who happens to be gay manage to navigate around the Hollywood system and release independent films? What about the man behind the films? For the answers to those questions, I’m going to let the man himself tell you. Please say hello to Paul Bright and his Face of Gay.
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The Face of Gay 19 (Angel Martinez)

November 24th, 2012


I originally wasn’t going to have a Face of Gay post this weekend. It was even a topic of conversation on my Facebook page because I honestly wanted to know if people thought they’d be around to read it. I just didn’t think it was fair to have someone write something up only to miss half the regular audience. However, we’re fluid here and after reading Angel’s post, I realized that this weekend isn’t just about strikes at Wal-Mart, moronic corporate executives at Target, or money. It’s about family. At least in the US. It was about family in Canada last month. As for the UK…um…every day is Family Day.

Reading Angel’s post gives me hope. It gives me hope that love and understanding is still alive in families and that if the next generation follows the examples she and so many of you are setting, we’re going to be okay. What amazes me even more is that she (Angel) sent this to me because she felt compelled to write it without even knowing if it would be featured as one of these posts. It couldn’t be more perfect. So with that, I give you Angel Martinez’s Face of Gay.
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