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A Story Worthy of Telling…As Long As It’s Not About Gay Accountants

Thursday, January 29th, 2015

I imagine acting is a bit like being a writer, which is a bit like being an engineer, which is a bit like being an accountant; you either have the aptitude for it or you don’t. It’s easy for me to look back at my early years then and see now that I was on the path for the entertainment industry and that it would involve writing. I liked what I liked and there was never enough of what I liked. Studio politics meant nothing to me, so if I liked a television show or movie, I simply wanted more and if I couldn’t get it, I’d write it myself. Well, I’d try anyway. I never did get very far. And when I got into college? I wasn’t content to constantly film someone else’s words in my video classes. I wanted to write what was on the screen.

You Won’t Believe What Terrifies Me!

Monday, January 26th, 2015

I was at DragonCon last year and a good friend and his boyfriend picked me up one morning to take me out to breakfast. I’ve known this friend for 5 or 6 years now and he’s the sweetest guy. He just happens to have some road rage. He’s also Filipino. I bring that last bit up because anytime I’ve ever driven with someone from the Philippines and they’re in the driver’s seat, they exhibit some serious road rage. It occurred to me to Google it and find out if it was perhaps a national pastime there. Suffice to say I’ll never be able to get into a vehicle with him again without the words “It’s a taxi stand!” running through my head while holding onto the door for dear life while his boyfriend desperately suggests in a soothing voice to “calm down.” Calm down? MEDICATE HIM!

How To Know If He’s The One…The Kage Alan Way

Thursday, January 22nd, 2015

Honorable Husband was doing that passive-aggressive half-Asian thing he does so well when he was home this past weekend. Granted, he had a sinus infection and allergy attack going on, so he might have been a little more on edge than usual, but he was also medicated. That meant we had a few moments throughout the time we spent together when he was also genuinely affectionate. I do enjoy when he’s medicated and have suggested he medicate more often. His responses may have been slightly sarcastic. In any case, part of our conversations during that time found us looking back at our first couple of years together and our hang-ups with being in a first real relationship.

Thoughts on the US Supreme Court Taking on Gay Marriage

Monday, January 19th, 2015

I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve been patiently waiting for the Supreme Court to take up the issue of gay marriage. I may have even been impatient about it, especially after the Federal Appeals Court ruled in favor of Michigan’s ban on gay marriage as well as the ban from a couple of other states. Honestly, I wholeheartedly believe the judge ruled the way he did so that it would force the Supreme Court’s hand. If my belief holds true, I also admit to being extremely annoyed with this judge because I live in Michigan and his decision is causing us hardship. On the other hand, if my belief holds true and he did do it to force their hand, it worked. Now we have the potential to either win the right to marry or have our marriage from another state recognized. We can also lose. It can go either way and I may be thanking that judge or cursing him.

Three Fantabulous Ways To Annoy Your Gay Asian Husband!

Thursday, January 15th, 2015

If there’s one thing gay Asian men agree on, it’s how difficult it is to train a white guy and keep one in check. The constant maintenance is a bitch, especially since it’s illegal in most countries to use shock collars and corporal punishment while training and maintaining. I know. I’ve found the pamphlets and looked over the cost projections with potential overruns for any serious behavioral issues. He’s lucky, too, because I’d have bankrupted his cute little rear end with my behavioral issues just for the fun of it. Instead, I’ve discovered over the years that simple baby steps of progress are enough to keep him happy. And finding new ways to annoy him keep me happy. Allow me to share a few with you.

The Butt-Thology of Growth

Monday, January 12th, 2015

I don’t believe I’ve met a writer who said he/she wasn’t influenced or inspired by another author prior to their career kicking into gear. Inspiration helps fuel us to dig deep and discover our own voice…or we copy that other author and get labeled as a bit of a hack. It happens. The majority of us, though, find our own voice. I grew up reading Stephen King, Anne McCaffrey, and Anne Rice. Horror and science fiction…and I somehow ended up writing comedy. Go figure. But as we discover our voice, we follow our muse and sometimes fall into the trap of believing that we’ll figure out how to mature as an author all on our own. I don’t believe it’s arrogance that leads us to think that. We just don’t know any better. It took a couple of anthologies to help me figure this out.

Christmas Rock Lobster

Thursday, January 8th, 2015

Honorable Husband and I spent the Christmas of 2013 going through boxes and items belonging to both us and his late father. Our attempts to take stock of and organize things during the week we had together was compounded by his dealing with the first Christmas since his father’s passing, which led to some friction. He doesn’t remember it that way and I’m glad. And it’s not that he remembers it different as much as he just doesn’t remember it. I do. I wanted to clobber him. The Christmas of 2014 wasn’t entirely different, but a little. We’re getting down to the nitty gritty of what’s left to unpack and organize, which we did without nearly as much friction this year. Though I’ll admit I did want to clobber him again once or twice as he did me. Still, it was a week and a half of… Well, it wasn’t bliss, but we did get a lot done.

My First Black Funeral

Monday, January 5th, 2015

Life isn’t lacking in endings and beginnings. The trees shed their leaves in the fall and are reborn in the spring. The year ends in December and begins again in January. And when people pass away just before Christmas, it certainly lowers the bar of great beginnings for the New Year. Honorable Husband flew in the morning of Christmas Eve Day and aside from planning the unpacking of the house and things we haven’t had time to do together because of his travels over the past twelve months, the one thing we did plan was a trip to Gary, Indiana the weekend after the holiday to attend the funeral of a friend’s mother.