Archive for November, 2014|Monthly archive page

Telling Your Asian Husband “No” and He Can’t Make A Mess

Monday, November 24th, 2014

The house is decorated for Thanksgiving. I originally allotted myself one day to accomplish this. It took three. I also had to take a couple more trips out to finish picking up food for the Thursday feast, plus some other odds and ends. And just when I thought it was done, I went to pull up my sheet whilst I was sleeping and it ripped. It ripped baaaaaad. They aren’t supposed to do that, but considering these are about eight years old, I figure we were due. Sufficeth to say, I grabbed my $20 in Kohl’s cash, a 20% off coupon and bought a new 500 thread count set. We’ll see if Honorable Husband notices. Speaking of HH…

Is Gay Marriage Ready For the Supreme Court?

Thursday, November 20th, 2014

I don’t know much about politics. It’s entirely possible I know more than I think I do, but if that’s true, it’s by default. If I goof anywhere in this, please let me know. And let be me up front that most of what I express in this post is based on opinion, not all of it on facts. Now, I was, in all honesty, looking forward to having the state of Michigan—where I live—finally recognize my marriage. The three hundred other gay couples who were legally married here several months back were looking forward to having theirs recognized, too. That went out the window when the 6th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld the gay marriage bans of four states under its jurisdiction.

Humming “It’s Beginning To Look a Lot Like Depression”

Monday, November 17th, 2014

Not me, thank you, although I could see it happening one day. Just not now. I’ll admit to you right up front that I’m one of “those people” who enjoy the holidays. I do it in my own way, though, but I do enjoy them. Back when I was in college, I’d deck the apartment out with enough Christmas lights that we didn’t need to have other lights on at night. That was my ‘thang’ and I carried that with me after college. Honorable Husband enjoyed it each and every year, right up until we moved into my former father-in-law’s house. I’m not allowed to hang anything on the walls now. It’s Master’s will.

Saying Goodbye to an Old Friend…Again

Friday, November 14th, 2014

One of the most difficult times I witnessed and experienced took place during the months with Honorable Husband after my father-in-law’s passing. People need time to heal, and learn how to go on without their loved one. We sometimes live in the memories we have with them or keep items of theirs around as reminders of the better times. Other times we only do that for a little while, then start to take those items, box them up, and store them. We know they’re there, but they’re just out of sight and left to be discovered again on some future day. And yet for others, that loved one may have been such a regular part of their everyday existence beyond the home that it makes things even more difficult to move on. Which brings us to my mentor—who passed away earlier this year—and his now former partner.

An Unconventional Romance

Monday, November 10th, 2014

One thing I’m amazed at is how many authors out there write romance. Even more amazing is how many readers out there read it. What is it about romance and love that keep people coming back time and time again? Or is the answer simply the word ‘love’? I read Stephen King while I was growing up. A lot of Stephen King. Love and romance weren’t always a huge part of his novels. Elements? Yes. Huge parts? No…though I suspect someone out there could make that argument. Please don’t. For whatever reason—and I don’t blame Stephen King for this—I was never a fan of romantic love. I didn’t understand it because I didn’t know it was okay for me to recognize the feelings I was having.

Don’t Write About It, Even If They Tell You To

Thursday, November 6th, 2014

There are days even I struggle to come up with a blog post idea. Sometimes my mind is fried with what’s going on during the week—if dad has been misbehaving due to the Alzheimer’s, if I have a deadline, or if Honorable Husband feels I’m not getting the creases in his pants ironed just so—or I’m just plum tired. Yes, plum tired…because I’m currently writing the next Butthology short story, which takes place in the south. And yes, I’ll be looking any slang I use up to make sure it’s appropriate. Anyway, there are occasions when I will actually look up blog ideas to see what other bloggers suggest. Some of them, though? Wow. No.

Wonderful Lube Edits & the Start of a New Tale

Monday, November 3rd, 2014

I think I’m a fairly bizarre author when it comes to editing. There are some folks who write their first draft, then it’s like pulling their fingernails off to get them to go back in and edit it. I’m not like that. I LOVE going back into my own work, ripping it apart, analyzing it, and putting it back together again. I liken it to a director who films all the scenes he or she can and has them assembled into a rough cut. That’s never the way the final film will look and it’s the same with a story with me. Now, getting edits back from the publisher is a slightly different matter. Why? Because I cringe when they find all the stupid crap I missed and some of it’s really embarrassing. I was going through edits for It’s A Wonderful Lube, my short story in the upcoming holiday anthology, Butt Babes in Boyland, and, boy, did I miss a few typos there I should have spotted.