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Exit 2013, Enter 2014

Monday, December 30th, 2013

2013 is almost over. Whew! I’d like to say we dodged a couple of bullets this year, but I’d be lying. My flak jacket is riddled with holes. I’ve either gotten too old to dodge them like I used to or we were in over our head without sufficient back-up. Between you and me, I’m leaning towards that last one. And this has been a year of experiences and lessons, not all of them even mine.

A Christmas Symphony Charade in Alzheimer’s Minor

Monday, December 23rd, 2013

My father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a little more than 5 years ago and I’ve seen the changes in him from one year to the next. It’s not fun to examine them by any stretch of the imagination, but it is necessary. He was able to walk all the way around the inside of Lakeside Mall last year. Not this year. He can barely make it around Macomb Mall without cutting a few sections short and without losing his balance, which he doesn’t realize he’s doing and frequently insists that he’s not. Prior to a year ago, I could take him to a local park and we’d walk around it several times. Not anymore. He’s getting worse and as this happens, it has peculiar effects on those around him. Take holidays for example.

Classic Blog Post: Death of a Nemesis

Saturday, December 21st, 2013

Original MySpace Publication Date: October 28, 2009

You know those people who touch our lives? No, no. Not the ones who touch us. That’s a whole different blog. I mean the ones who touch our lives in a non-physical sense. But even beyond that. I mean the ones who touch our lives in a non-physical sense who we wish would go touch a live wire instead, one whipping around on the ground and sparking…lots. Exactly. Those people.


Special Promo: Ghoul’s Gym Blog Tour (Eric Arvin & TJ Klune)

Friday, December 20th, 2013

One thing you’ll notice about my blog is that I don’t do promo in the traditional sense. And by the traditional sense, I mean that I don’t feature guest authors with their bios and excerpts of their books. I don’t even do that for myself. Why? Well, it’s not relevant. Not today.

Authorette/friend/and overall incredible person J.P. Barnaby asked if I’d reconsider my stance and become part of a blog tour for some fellow authors who are experiencing some pretty serious medical issues. I’ve never met them, but I’ve always heard and continue to hear absolutely stellar things about Eric Arvin and TJ Kluen. So while they’re focusing on what they need to right now. a number of us are assisting with what we can based on J.P.’s leadership and direction; helping them promote their latest release.  I can’t think of a better reason to do this, so here we are and here you go. Please send Eric and TJ some healing thoughts and allow me to welcome you to today’s stop in the Ghoul’s Gym Blog Tour and giveaway!

OMG! It’s… Naa, We’ll Save That For 2014

Thursday, December 19th, 2013

I vowed many years ago I would never work with another author on a book again. This included co-authoring or doing an anthology. Yes, the experience was ‘that’ negative at the time. It’s lessened a bit over the years, but it’s a rule I remained steadfast about up until last year. Writing—to me—is personal. It’s taking an idea and creating a little world that didn’t exist before. And as the conduit from which this world is born, I take full responsibility for its existence. I use the term conduit because while I may have what I feel to be the grandest ideas in the world, my muse will often roll her eyes and tell me ‘no’ or simply give me the finger. We have that good of a rapport with each other. So here I am…with a contract I signed two nights ago for the second anthology I’m part of. Who knew?

Some Boyfriend Rules: Debunked The Asian Way

Monday, December 16th, 2013

Someone recently posted a link to a cute little article/entry on The Bluepers Diary by smurphny titled 12 Boyfriend Rules. Now, I’m always on the lookout for tips and ideas of how I can alter my behavior to make Honorable Husband happier, only within certain boundaries. I don’t want him getting the idea I’ve suddenly caved to his way of living. One of the reasons I think he hasn’t replaced me yet is because he can’t quite figure out how to destroy my perception of reality and replace it with his own. I confound him, therefore he’s not bored. But these rules smuprhny lists? Some of them are just completely wrong! They may work on white people, but Asians? Girl, please!

The Face of Gay 47 (Mary Gresham)

Saturday, December 14th, 2013

There are people who always want what they don’t have and people who are grateful for everything they do have.  The do’s seem to always learn how to pay it forward and, in today’s post, it’s evident why. Welcome to Mary Gresham’s Face of Gay.

Manners of the Season

Thursday, December 12th, 2013

Honorable Husband excels in non-verbal communication. For instance, he silently insists he deal with Kris when he’s home and not Kage. He has very little patience when Kage wants to come out to play. The funny thing is that Kris isn’t afraid of Honorable Husband whereas Kage—who isn’t afraid of anything or anyone else—runs and hides like a little Loganite. There are times, however, when we need to play Good Gay/Bad Gay and Honorable Husband coaxes Kage out to play by dangling a Blu-Ray in front of him. It always works. And the holiday season is the one where Kage gets to come out and play the most!

Where To Shove That Opinion

Monday, December 9th, 2013

Alright, I’m admitting that I’m absolutely certain I may possibly be climbing on a soapbox with this post. Or I may not be. The jury is still out, but it’s nice to be so positive about my standing on this. See, here’s the thing. I’ve spent the better part of my life as the underdog and I’m good with it. I’ve embraced it and I own it. It allows me to see things from a perspective outside the popular view and I’m glad for that. I’ve also had to develop a thick skin while others have not. And when I see someone who stops to question themselves because of the popular view, it enrages the hell out of me. This is what happened Saturday night.

CBP: Halloween H20 + CiSO4 = CuSO4*Too Many Bad Halloween Sequels

Saturday, December 7th, 2013

Original MySpace Publication Date: October 12, 2009
Ah, there’s nothing quite like Halloween season, a time when most wimpy people I know actually stop complaining when I pull a horror movie out to watch. Now, mind you, I only bring out the best discs when I have company; “The Howling 2”, “Dracula 3000”, “Jaws: The Revenge”, “Amityville 3”, “I Still Know Who You Did Last Summer”…

The list goes on and those films combined with my love of the fall season equals perfect writing weather, especially when spinning a yarn about the Grandmonster. Or, as the case may be, a not-so-fictional account about the Grandmonster.