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The Face of Gay 46 (Cynnara Tregarth)

Saturday, November 30th, 2013

There’s an interesting phenomena about people watching. We look at someone and sometimes wonder “Is this person gay or straight?” Or we’ll look at them and say “Please, God, make it so this person is batting for my team, is available and finds me the Adonis or Xena I see myself as!” Or “Please, God, make this person straight because they just looked at me with lustful eyes and so aren’t my type.”

Sadly, this means we’ve overlooked something…that third option we didn’t consider because we don’t often give it much thought. Welcome to Cynnara Tregarth’s Face of Gay.

The One Thing I Won’t Apologize For

Monday, November 25th, 2013

The months of November, December and January are very difficult ones for some people to like me. If you’ve been reading my posts or comments folks have left for any length of time, you’re already aware I’m considered a bit of an acquired taste. The holidays don’t help that reputation. Why? The easiest explanation is that I become an optimist. I LOVE the holidays. I’m that annoying guy who enjoys going to the shops and picking out that perfect card for each person. I love watching people open gifts. I love the look of surprise on their faces (the good kind of surprise) and I enjoy the warmth people share during this time. My parents made sure I felt this way when I was growing up, that I loved the holidays for what it was supposed to mean for families, not necessarily what it did mean and what it’s become. And I refuse to apologize for my boundless energy or good humor for this season.

See? I’m totally okay with being ‘that annoying guy’ in this instance.

Classic Blog Post: Nathan Fillion & the Muse’s Colon (G-spot)

Saturday, November 23rd, 2013

Original MySpace Publication Date: October 04, 2009

I was listening to the audio commentary on the pilot episode of “Castle” this morning—because I listen to commentary tracks—when one of the creators mentioned in reference to actor Nathan Fillion preparing for his role that following a writer around for 8 hours would be boring. All they do is sit in a chair, type and bang their head against the wall.

I Discovered the Reason I Exist

Thursday, November 21st, 2013

The holidays are coming! The holidays are coming! That used to excite me because it meant presents, video games, Star Wars collectibles, Star Trek collectibles, LEGOs, nummy food I didn’t have to make, messes I didn’t have to clean, shopping I didn’t have to pay for, play Laser Tag, and I could run around with my friends without a care in the world. And then it changed when I ‘matured’…last year. Well, okay, a couple of years ago as in I matured a couple of years back, but I still do all that other stuff, including Laser Tag. And as different as the last several years have been—mostly because of dad—this year will be even more different. Whether or not I can pull it off so that it’s a good kind of different remains to be seen. See, here’s the problem…

In Honor of Mo-Mo in Satirical Form

Tuesday, November 19th, 2013

You’re familiar with the saying “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” right? Well, that’s not true. A taser will typically give someone a much needed jolt and, believe me, they’ll remember it. A slightly less electrifying way to help someone remember something is through satire. Public satire. A blog post poking fun at them in a satirical way for all their friends to read. And why would someone do this? It may or may not—you decide—have to do with another someone challenging a writer to write about them. Why would this other someone make this challenge despite having it previously proven to them that it’s not wise to do such a thing? Because they forget.

So for those of you who know my accident prone friend Mo-Mo from Facebook and even those of you who don’t, here is my way of honoring her today and giving her that little jolt as a reminder not to challenge a writer to write about her. 1-0 Kage!

The Face of Gay 45 (Eden Winters)

Saturday, November 16th, 2013

I first met Eden Winters a year and a half ago and was immediately intimidated…intimidated by how sweet and friendly she is. I’m used to dealing with the likes of Patti Logan, so you can figure how odd it was to come across Glenda instead of the green one with the broom. It wasn’t until this year, though, that Eden took me under her wing and explained southern manners to me. Why? Because she’s a lady.

I was recently delighted to find out that Eden is a member of PFLAG. Welcome to Eden Winters’ Face of Gay.

If Buying Book Reviews Be the Food of Sales, Pay On

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013

A previous job I had involved assisting clients with their web site in terms of SEO (or Search Engine Optimization). This essentially means that if they were a local business focused on a specific product or service, I made suggestions and rewrote parts of their site using specific keywords so that the search engines would pick those changes up and improve their rankings based on what users typed into Google. These were organic changes and acceptable per the search engines. However, there is a dark side to what businesses will sometimes do called paid links and J.C. Penney was caught using the practice. It’s frowned upon and J.C. Penney got into trouble for it. Big trouble. I bring this up as an introduction because something else has been making news again lately, only in my profession; paid book reviews.

It’s All About the Kissing!

Monday, November 11th, 2013

The thing about growing up in a semi-large extended family is that the majority of my relatives are annoying. My dad’s side of the family? Not so much. They’re a$$holes, so there’s a difference. But mom’s side? They’re the touchy-huggy-feely annoying kind and they kiss. It’s a kiss on the cheek thing, but a kiss nonetheless and I was not a kisser. It really didn’t help, too, that my mother used to tease me and say that every time I kissed my red-headed aunt, I’d get a freckle. So I learned to be a hugger. Hugging family was okay. Hugging other people? I was very, very selective. Some people are way too huggy, but if it means I don’t get kissed, I’m all about the hugging. Except, of course, when I’m being intimate with someone, which is when I’m all about the kissing. Many gay men don’t feel that way, though.

Classic Blog Post: Is This Your Thing?

Saturday, November 9th, 2013

Original MySpace Publication Date: October 01, 2009

I had a conversation with a friend at DragonCon and we were catching each other up about what we were working on, future potential projects etc etc.  The conversation turned to the book I’d just submitted to my publisher and I mentioned that I was experiencing some confusion about why I wrote it and what it meant to me.  This prompted a series of questions from him.

Writing…It’s What We Do

Thursday, November 7th, 2013

I was having dinner at a local restaurant two nights ago and surfing on my laptop since they recently installed wireless there. A story caught my attention about K-Mart announcing they’re going to open up at 6 a.m. Thanksgiving morning and stay open for 41 hours. Response to this has been negative and I may have tweeted my dissatisfaction about it. Whoever handles K-Mart’s social media may have responded. And I may have replied and gotten the last word in. This is what my life has come to; arguing with a corporate entity. But you see, I couldn’t help myself. I’m a writer. It’s what I do. Not the arguing with corporate entities. I mean the writing bit.