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Joining the ‘I’ve Had Surgery Club’, Dues Mandatory

Monday, July 29th, 2013

So there’s a club I wasn’t aware I didn’t belong to called the “I’ve Had Surgery Club” and it’s assumed everybody is a member. Well, it’s assumed everybody is a member once you’ve reached my age, the tender age of 33. And you’ll receive the most incredulous looks and sounds of astonishment when you answer one of the medical profession’s most basic questions; please list any and all surgeries you’ve had. When exactly in America did it become so commonplace that young folks like ourselves overburdened our bodies to the point where surgery was simply the next natural stage of our evolution? Here I thought the stereotype is that we all ate too much and we’re lazy. No wonder health costs are so staggering.

Perpetrators of Distraction: CNN & the News

Thursday, July 25th, 2013

Just when you thought Honey Boo Boo or Honey BooBoo Kitty or whatever the heck she calls herself was gone, she’s back. And I have no idea what a Honey Boo Boo is nor do I care to find out. Dorien Grey doesn’t give her existence much credence either, so I feel safe in my ignorance. Then there’s the royal baby. It’s a boy. They’re still talking about him. The gay press even ran an article saying the Brits wouldn’t be opposed to a gay heir to the throne. Why did that even have to come up? And, alright, who’s reading the story? Detroit made the news for all the wrong reasons again and it just isn’t dying down. Did the governor intend all along for the city to go into bankruptcy? Did he do an end run around the rules in hiring the emergency manager? Is the state going to use its influence to quash the lawsuits against the bankruptcy? Did Justin Bieber do anything else stupid this week? Oh, and Zimmerman apparently helped someone out of an overturned vehicle.

A Question of Self-Worth in My Own Comedic Way

Sunday, July 21st, 2013

I’ve given several things up over the years in order to accommodate my career as an author and also helping with my father, who I’ve put before my writing career. Much of what I’ve given up are things I enjoyed, like going to the movies a couple times a week, keeping up on all the Hollywood gossip, being far more social (in person) with friends, etc. And then there are things I’ve given up that I didn’t like, such as going to the doctor. Not that I ever made a habit of doing that, but I wasn’t really afraid to go if I felt I needed to. That’s changed over time. It changed even more when I no longer had health insurance. It almost sent me running for the hills when someone told me a week ago that what I may medically need could run me $15,000 to $20,000.

The Face of Gay 37 (Dennis R. Upkins)

Saturday, July 20th, 2013

One thing we don’t hear much about are multi-cultural experiences. I live one because of my husband and while I’ve immersed myself in Asian culture as well included it in my novels, that still doesn’t make me diverse. Reading Dennis’s post made me painfully aware of this. I’ve seen and met him briefly at a convention we both attend in Atlanta, only we’ve never had an opportunity to sit down and actually converse. That’ll change next year. Welcome to Dennis’s Face of Gay.

Death and Those Other Pesky Signs of Mortality

Thursday, July 18th, 2013

I had a dream last week that woke me up in a cold sweat. In it, I was driving in a car with my brother-in-law and father-in-law, which is already slightly morbid since FIL has been gone now since March. We were all sad and talking about how my husband had just passed away a few hours earlier from choking. I sat in the vehicle with them and cried. It’s bad enough we have dreams like this about people we love, but even more so when it feels as real as this one did. I couldn’t get past the feeling that I’d never have another conversation with him, would never again see him smile or hear his voice. His absence created a hole so deep inside me that I knew if I threw myself down it, it would never end and I’d still never find him. Is that what it is to lose the love of one’s life?

Airline Atheists, Captivemasons and It’s a Square!

Monday, July 15th, 2013

I’m about to stagger you with my brilliant ignorance. And please try to keep that less-than-surprised look off of your face. There’s been a lot going on lately and I’m not entirely at my best right now. First, home renovations are continuing and look to continue at an accelerated rate over the next couple of days. Second, I may have hurt myself during the home renovations, so a trip to the doctor sometime very soon may be prudent. Third, my husband has been keeping me on my toes assisting with things he needs done, so I am, quite frankly, exhausted. Finally, I played host for a couple of whirlwind days with friends visiting from Australia. Yes, I can be social in a good way. Try not to faint. Sadly, I see you trying to put it together in your mind as to which of those scenarios I excelled in the aforementioned brilliant ignorance. Don’t you just hate multiple choice?

CBP: Episode 3: The Friend Who Wasn’t Getting Any

Saturday, July 13th, 2013

Original MySpace Publication Date: August 01, 2009

The following is a reprint from when I hosted a series of behind-the-scenes blog posts during the week of July 20-24.


And so we’ve made it to Day 3, Wednesday, the day after the weekly religious holiday known as New Release Blu-Ray Tuesday. Ah, technology…where would we be without it?

Ellen Degeneres and I were talking about this very subject on our morning cam-chat while trying to set up a lunch date with Madge next time she flies over to do some shopping, but then Tom Cruise kept calling her (Ellen’s) cell phone trying to get on her show. It was “the mother ship” this and “the mother ship” that. Seriously? Still going on about the mother ship?

Irrational Adventures in the Comfort Zone

Thursday, July 11th, 2013

I remember my first trip to Hong Kong and being completely overwhelmed and in culture shock. The Grandmonster suggested we take a day trip over the border into mainland China, a city called Shenzen. This is before Shenzen was given—or so I’ve since heard—a much-needed facelift. To say I was apprehensive about going there is an understatement and to say I was borderline paranoid about getting the hell back to Hong Kong after several hours there is a kindness considering how I really felt. Sadly, this is not an isolated incident and I don’t have to be overseas to experience it. It would seem that I have two settings; Kage in his comfort zone and Kage outside his comfort zone and nothing in between.

A Scavenging Werewolf Boy on Europa

Monday, July 8th, 2013

I know. I didn’t have a new blog post for July 4th. The only thing more wrong with that is nobody noticed. What were you all doing? I could have been left for dead, bleeding fabulously on a sidewalk somewhere and the only person who’d pass me for miles would be so intent on reading the latest Patricia Logan novel and circling the typos that they’d never even notice little ol’ joyful me. I even had to give the staff a day off because it was a holiday or some such thing. Honestly, the Brits don’t celebrate it, so is it really such a big deal? And the staff actually wanted it paid! I’m starting to understand how my previous employer felt. So enough about all that. The hubby came home last Tuesday from his 2 weeks with the Grandmonster and it was time to get down to booty! Business. I meant business.

The Face of Gay 36 (LuvWarrior)

Saturday, July 6th, 2013

Here’s a little Detroit history for you. Way the heck back when my husband and I first started dating, we began to attend a series of parties hosted by some gentlemen from an AOL chat room. We laughed, we danced, we sipped watered down Cokes and made a few friends for life. These are the kind of people you never forget. I have no idea where they went or what any of their names are anymore, but, darn it, we bonded! And we’ll always have the Macarena.

A very pleasant surprise for me now is to read the story behind those gatherings from one of the very special people the hubby and I remain friends with today. Meet LuvWarrior. This is his Face of Gay.