I’ve been having a little trouble lately coming with what I think are quality ideas for blog posts. It’s a tiny bit of a struggle after writing a certain amount on a regular basis, but then OutlantaCon gave me a few nuggets I could see working with and expanding on. I had the perfect one for today! And then President Obama announced his support for same sex marriage. Well, shit. What I thought about writing is going to have to wait because I had a pretty emotional response to the announcement. I don’t know about you, but I’m a little scared.
There are going to be a huge number of people chiming in about this and though I doubt I’ll be as eloquent, it still needs to be said. Here’s the immediate thing: why didn’t this announcement get made before North Carolina chose to add marriage as only being between a man and a woman to their constitution? Did the president do it because it passed or did he do it because of Biden’s comments about supporting gay marriage? I guess it really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, but I would like to know to satisfy my own curiosity.
This whole thing scares me. We’ve been asking for recognition for a long time now and suddenly we’ve been given a chance for it. There’s no guarantee that gay marriage will be granted even if Obama wins a second term, but we’re a step closer to the dream. We asked for this and now it’s a reality. We have the support of the president.
In giving it, Obama drew a line in the sand. This is now a party fight and a single choice for us; Democrat leadership or Republican leadership. Pro-gay or anti-gay. There doesn’t seem to be any middle ground anymore. We also know that if Mitt Romney wins, he’ll do everything in his power not only to make any future gay marriages illegal, but most likely find a way to nullify those that have been done. I fear this election won’t be so much about budgets and deficits as it will about civil rights and religion.
But I’ll tell you what terrifies me and I mean terrifies me to the bone. The GLBT community is about to get dragged through the mud. This battle, and it is a battle, has the potential to be a wholesale slaughter. People are going to bring out the arguments that gays are trying to indoctrinate children into the gay lifestyle (especially going through schools), that the Bible speaks out against homosexuality (naturally, let’s pick and choose what we want to believe from the good book), that we are depraved and sick sinners, and you know someone is going to bring animals into the argument (probably as a “What’s next? Marrying your dog?”).
Have a look at what’s already been said within an hour of the president’s announcement.
“All homosexuals and trannys need to be exiled from America this plague has to be removed like you remove a tumor that’s causing cancer from this geat country we call America before our kids are poisoned by this abomination. All those who sympathize with and encourage homosexuality should be imprisoned for blasphemy against God.” (kstaxx)
“…Republicans recognize the importance of having in the home a father and a mother who are married. The two-parent family still provides the best environment of stability, discipline, responsibility, and character. Children in homes without fathers are more likely to commit a crime, drop out of school, become violent, become teen parents, use illegal drugs, become mired in poverty, or have emotional or behavioral problems.” Republican National Committee Chairman Reince Priebus
This is the tiniest sampling of what we’re in for. People haven’t had time to organize yet and when they do, it’s going to get a lot worse before it ever gets better. I’m a big boy and I can take a lot, but I worry about our youth. Do you think bullying won’t intensify? Do you think name calling won’t get worse? Do you think that the suicide rate won’t spike? It all may very well come true and I’m not trying to be a doomsayer. I’m trying to prepare myself for what’s to come and figure out what I can do to help. We’re going to have to educate people who don’t understand us that we’re no different.
I posted a link to President Obama’s announcement on my Facebook page yesterday and touched on some of my fears. A straight acquaintance sent me a message a short time later that does give me hope.
“I don’t comment on political posts on FB mainly because I tend to be put thru the ringer for my beliefs. Some people assume because I am a Christian and a Republican than I am a greedy bigot. I use the term Republican loosely these days though since I am mainly a Republican on economic issues and it seems the party is being hijacked. Anyhow, just wanted you to know that you have some support from those of us on the right.”
This is an important reminder to all of us that not all people who associate themselves with a particular political party or religion believe everything their base does. We need each other, but we also need their help if we’re going to get through this.
I wasn’t around for Stonewall and for others who weren’t either, maybe this is our little bit of gay history in the making.
So…what can I do to help?
Kage Alan is Rocky IV watching, Wynter Gordon listening author of “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to My Sexual Orientation,” “Andy Stevenson Vs. the Lord of the Loins” and the first book in a separate series, “Gaylias: Operation Thunderspell.” He fully expects to be laying in bed the next couple of nights terrified out of his mind at the political battle about to happen. Still, he’s hopeful for the best.