Archive for September, 2012|Monthly archive page

The Face of Gay 11 (Rob)

Saturday, September 29th, 2012

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The words humble, modest and one tough cookie come to mind about Rob. The first two have to do with his personality while the third has to do with his being a teacher. And it’s not that he’s difficult. Far from. But in order to do his job, he sets an expectation level for his students that they need to meet. I know this because I read Rob’s Facebook posts. I can also vouch for his personality because I’ve met him…twice.

He wondered why I approached him about submitting something for this and the truth is Rob is an educator. He’s someone who takes part in shaping the youth of today. He’s on the front line, somewhere I don’t have the nerve to be. Hell, I annoyed myself when I was a teenager, so I think it’s a testament that any adult chooses to be around them, let alone tries to get them to learn. Teachers have my respect and I admit that I’ve been curious about what a gay teacher might go through. I got my answer. And despite what Rob says, one does not need to be a mover and a shaker to make a difference in the world. In this case, he need only be himself.
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The Face of Gay 10 (T.J.)

Saturday, September 22nd, 2012

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There are a couple of misconceptions people have about writing a post for the Face of Gay series. 1) They feel they have to be a writer. You don’t. 2) They feel they have to compete with the other stories being submitted. You don’t. 3) They think their life isn’t special enough to write about. You’re wrong. It’s really very simple; just have something to say that you’d want people to know about you or someone you know who’s gay. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated. Just honest. Sharing has the potential to change lives. We laugh, we cry, and we grow. I’ve learned something from every single one of these posts and the consensus is others have, too. We’ve got something special here, but they only continue if you want them to, which means speaking up.

On the subject of speaking up, I’ve had the fascinating and previously bumpy pleasure (read into that what you will) of chatting with T.J. online. A mutual friend has said more than once that she fears we’d kill each other if we ever met in person, only I think she’s just hoping we’d amuse her with a kitty fight. The thing I recognize about this young man is he’s not going to tolerate drama, he feels deeply, and he won’t let anybody or anything stand between him and his partner. These are all things I completely and totally respect. So, would we really kill each other? I think not. But we might put on a show for our friend just to play with her mind…because that’s fun! And with that, here’s T.J.
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The Face of Gay 9 (Katherine Trick)

Sunday, September 9th, 2012

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I’ll admit that even I need a little reminder from time to time that my faith in humanity is founded. It’s way too easy to become jaded these days and let the ugliness cloud everything. And I remember a time when it was easy to get jaded, like first coming out to my friends. Most were good, so no real complaints. Hey, I hang with good people. A couple of them didn’t take it it so well, but we’ve come to an understanding since then. It was, after all, a different time. And still a few others also turned out to be gay. That’s how my husband and I ended up together…and why I thank my lucky stars we are. So enough of that and let’s move on to today’s guest blogger and her story about… Well, I’ll let her tell it.
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The Face of Gay 8 (Anonymous as Scott)

Saturday, September 8th, 2012

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Has anyone ever told you–as someone has me–that no matter how difficult you think you have it, somebody somewhere has it worse? There’s a definite ring of truth to that with today’s post. I’ve had drama in my life. My friends have had drama in theirs. People I only know through social media and e-mail have theirs. That being said, I don’t know anyone who went through the experiences Scott here has. I’m sure they’re out there, but they’ve remained silent. Scott remained silent…until now.

This is one of those rare times I don’t feel one of my regular introductions is even necessary. I will tell you, however, that I cried after reading this. And whatever your reaction to this Face of Gay, I hope you’ll leave a comment for the author at the bottom. He’ll be reading them throughout the day.

Finally, if you have a story of your own that you’d like to share, please let me know. I don’t have anything lined up beyond today’s.
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The Face of Gay 7 (Danny)

Saturday, September 1st, 2012

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My mother frequently told me that not everything is funny. I think the reason she had to remind me of this was twofold. First, I was learning to laugh at myself and once you can do that, you take the power away from anyone else laughing at you in a bad way and things do become much more humorous. You’ve accepted your faults, so the hell with what everyone else thinks. The other reason was to keep me grounded. Yes, I write comedy and I enjoy the heck out of it, but my friends and family keep me grounded. The Face of Gay posts are keeping me grounded, too. Something happened with them. Instead of each submission being all about the writer, the writers incorporated others into their stories. They did something I didn’t anticipate and made these blog posts their own by expanding on the idea. That’s magic. That’s what it means to be a writer. You cannot tie one down, draw a line and ask they not follow their instincts to go further.

And now you get to meet Danny. Before you do, though, please allow me to do my usual request of asking that you leave a little love in the form of comments at the bottom if you’re moved to do so and also consider submitting, too.
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